The Self-Respect Project
What this is: The Self-Respect project is a group/network dedicated to making people see the beauty in themselves and their self worth through anon messages daily.
What is expected: We generally want you to send about 5 messages a day AT LEAST to blogs you notice that need it (or random blogs). Details about those messages and what they should say will be given to you when you’re accepted into the group :) Because this group will revolve around anon messages, all blogs are welcome as we don’t have to worry about someone being triggered by a depression blog because it’s on anon.
Want to become part of this? (RULES):
- Must be following the two admins: unshaking and you-aremysunshine
- Must reblog this post ONCE
- To increase your chances, message one of the admins saying why you want to be in it.
- In a weeks time we will pick the group members :)
Happy reblogging and never forget to smile! (:
Before and after photos are one of those things that frustrate the hell out of me when it comes to fatness and weight loss. Seeing so many people congratulated on no longer having a “before body” is part of this frustration since we are taught to be in awe of those people who have an “after body.” Before images are always framed as being worse than the after image, in relation to weight loss it is the after image that always triumphs the before.
I don’t have a before body or even an after body; it’s a forever body. My body isn’t a failure and having an “after” image doesn’t make the before any less worthy / beautiful or as good of a body.
You all can guess at the things I did between the before and after.
* There are numerous forms of before and after photos that don’t frame the before in a negative way but I have yet to see one with weight loss.
1. EVERYONE deserves to eat.
2. Hunger is a biological need that all humans have, not something you earn. Without even moving off the couch, your body needs food to keep your blood circulating, heart pumping, and most importantly your mind functioning.
3. The nutrients in foods give us energy. When you forgo eating, you zap your vitality and have no stamina to pursue your passions and dreams – to make a difference in the world, like I know you want to.
4. Women who enjoy their food and don’t incessantly talk about diets are SEXY!
5. Empty Bellies Do Not Beget Genius. Read this often!!
6. If you skip meals, you’ll be much more likely to overeat or binge later on and that’s only going to make you feel WORSE about yourself.
7. If you don’t eat, your metabolism will slow down as your body begins to think it’s in starvation mode. And, because the body is smart (thanks to evolution), it will try to save you by breaking down muscle for energy.
8. Food helps you to be more focused, happier, and less likely to snap at someone. I think we all need more people like this in our lives.
9. Food is one of life’s greatest pleasures – to reject it is like turning away from a brilliant sunset.
10. You are a vibrant, passionate, pleasure-seeking person, and there’s nothing wrong with taking pleasure from healthy sources.
11. When you eat, you’re taking care of yourself and with each choice to love your body, you take power away from ED.
11. You have only one life – one body – this is a precious gift (ask anyone who’s had a major surgery, disability, or other limitation) – take care of it!
12. Eating gives you a chance to practice gratitude for all the ordinary things in life you take for granted. When you connect with and feel thankful for food, you can see the entire Universe supporting you, day by day. Now that’s LOVE.
13. Dieting affects your social life and ability to connect with others by keeping you locked up inside your head. If you’re obsessing about food all the time, you can’t be a good friend.
14. Dieting focuses attention on appearance rather than self-worth and personal fulfillment. In other words, it robs you of LIFE.
15. When young girls see older women dieting, they get the message that they should deprive themselves too. Why not be a positive role model instead?
16. Dieting supports an oppressive multi-billion dollar industry. Why be a part of the problem when you can be a part of the solution?
17. Dieting is social control of women – it’s an attempt to get women to take up less space, lose their power, be competitive with each other, and spend more and more money chasing after an impossible ideal. No one has the right to take power away from you!
18. Meals should be a chance to take a break from work, studying, or whatever keeps you busy during the day. Meals are a wonderful way to pause, reflect, breathe, reconnect with ourselves and the earth.
19. If you want to be the best version of yourself (mentally, emotionally, physically) you have to take care of yourself, like you would a small child or your best friend.
20. Loving and appreciating your food doesn’t mean you won’t be able to stop eating it. With practice, you can learn to be an intuitive eater that knows how to fill your emotional needs without abusing food.
When food is your friend, you can’t help but feel happier. And when you’re happier, everyone around you benefits.
The worst thing about anxiety in situations (like going to a police department for internship stuff): Leaving and thinking, “Okay, so I sounded stupid, I’m sick so my voice was gross, I bet I looked stupid, oh my life I was my hair doing that stupid flip thing? It was so doing that stupid flip thing. I can tell. I said the wrong thing. I should go in there and apologize for sounding dumb and then maybe it’ll be better. No, because that’s stupid, too. Omg, thank goodness the car is parked fine… did they see me put my shoes on in the car? Ohmygosh, they think I’m insane. They’re not going to let an insane person intern with them! Lexie, go home. Just go home and hide forever.”
The best thing about anxiety in situations: It’s just my stupid thoughts going all crazy. I sounded fine. My hair was NOT flipping around crazily. I looked fine (even Brother said I looked really pretty). I smiled and talked normally. The best thing is being able to accept that all of those thoughts are not accurate and it’s just a part of my anxiety.
I can’t say I DON’T think/feel that way still, it’s just the thoughts are tolerable and I can push them out with positive thinking a little better ♥ ♥ ♥
Tomorrow (technically today) is March 1st which means it is self-injury awareness day. Show some love and support and take the day to smile more. Be kind to strangers. Tell a friend/relative you love them. Hug someone. Draw an orange ribbon on your wrist. Wear an orange shirt. Write “love” on your wrist/arm. Give love and accept love. If you struggle with self-harm, remember you’re not alone. Reach out. Open up. Find healthy alternatives. It’s so hard to overcome, but you can do it. I know from personal experience just how hard it is which is how I know it can be overcome. It takes work, it is difficult, but it is possible. It’s simple, but not easy. Reach out, get help, and if you need resources or healthy alternatives, let me know. You can fight this… and you can win ♥